noticed it? That you’ve drawn some extraordinary conclusions
about yourself? Conclusions that, looking at them objectively, nine
out of ten times turn out to be not completely true or completely
Changes are that you haven’t noticed. You see, that’s
one of the characteristics of a phantom belief…you automatically
assume it is true. Because this conclusion has been drawn on a very
young age and thereupon started a life of its own.
The phantom beliefs constitute a large part of the baggage we drag
along. And we’re not just carrying around personal phantom beliefs
(I’m no good, I’m ugly, I’m stupid, etc) but also
social phantom beliefs (you can’t have it all, sickness is a
weakness, being angry isn’t spiritual, you have to be the best
to win, etc)
As stated before, a phantom belief works almost soundless in the background.
And that’s what makes it so tricky, because that’s why
you can react automatically to a certain situation and - in the best
case scenario – wonder afterwards: “why did I respond
Up to now I’ve only found one evident medicine for phantom beliefs
and automatic pilots: being aware. Living consciously. Being willing
to look at your behaviour and thoughts honestly.
You can discover phantom beliefs rather easily by noticing what kind
of remarks ‘hit’ you. What remark gets you go up the wall?
Take a stroll through your own mind and find out what causes you to
feel so outraged. Disentangle your phantom beliefs and start to understand